While we will have very different journeys characterised by unique experiences and people, I always still make reference to my journey and experiences to teach or amplify points because it is a tool in my arsenal, as everyone’s experiences also becomes tools in their own arsenal. Paul writing to the church of the Thessalonians says … Continue reading Filtering the professed love
Category: Love and Relationships
My memoir of year three
I remember summarising the lesson of year 2 memoir to “don’t wait to fix what is broken, but build what will stand the test of time” and so early in our third year of marriage, we decided to start couples counselling/therapy. I grew up in a church that advocated for marriage enhancement classes once you … Continue reading My memoir of year three
Musings on “young love”
My husband and I were listening to an old MI song today and while MI was rapping, he said “loving you girl since I was 22”. I made a random joke, singing same line to Nelson; “loving you boy since I was 19” and Nelson said “gosh, you were really so young”. We’re in such … Continue reading Musings on “young love”
My memoir of year two
This was suppose to go live two weeks ago but my first attempt at writing it, I got soaked in my own tears, the second attempt, I was convinced it read too much like a fairy tale, the third attempt was me trying hard to avoid a fairy tale story. And so, with the many … Continue reading My memoir of year two
The End Goal
Wrapping up The Foch Love Series today and I thought it was important that we ended with the beginning that should be at the forefront of our minds as regards love; what is the end goal of romantic love? Love is so warm and pleasurable by design. I often tell my friends that love and … Continue reading The End Goal
The loud and quiet lovers
One of the best parts of love is just how unique it is. The characteristics could be the same, but the expressions are always at the mercy of the parties involved. Every couple gets a clean slate to curate their expressions of love, not necessarily the characteristics or components of love, but its diverse expressions. … Continue reading The loud and quiet lovers
Navigating sexual attraction in courtship
I remember a time I went to Nigeria for holiday, Nelson and I had started courting, and the night before I left Abuja, he had flown in from Lagos to say goodbye because early that morning I left him a text saying “I wish I could see you one last time before I left”. Didn’t … Continue reading Navigating sexual attraction in courtship
Loving them into changing
I think this is often such a tricky conversation to be had, especially among Christian circles. It’s tricky because on one end, we teach “God never gave up on us, we must never give up on men”, and on the other end, we encourage “walk away if they are not treating you right”. The dilemma … Continue reading Loving them into changing
Loving the ‘wrong’ person
Today is day 3 of #FochLoveSeries and we talk about loving the wrong person. Someone might be thinking “what makes a person wrong?”, “how does one end up loving a wrong person?” We will break it down very shortly. The first thing to note is that this mostly happens unconsciously. It happens consciously sometimes, but … Continue reading Loving the ‘wrong’ person
Stooping to edify
I love the physical house of God. I love the gathering of the brethren. I genuinely love the God-idea behind community. It reminds me of a God fully committed to helping and supporting us in every way, even through His vessels on earth. Adrenaline levels tend to climb when we’re in environments that trigger happy … Continue reading Stooping to edify
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