Are we exclusive?

Two nights ago, I had an interesting dream, very mundane but powerful. I was back in high school in a dormitory talking with a couple of friends and laughing hard over the things we talked about.

As we spoke and laughed, night came and I saw us all go to bed in different beds but in the same room. By the following day (in the dream), which appeared to be several years after, I saw us again in the room, only this time, we were in different positions and one of us was married. We chilled together and enjoyed our company and then night came again. The friend who was married started heading for the door saying ‘I’ll see you guys later’ and I remember a number of us reaching out in concern asking her why she was leaving us. Another person replied ‘well, have you forgotten she is married now?

It honestly felt like it was new information and all over again, we said our goodbyes and watched her leave the room. Right before I woke up from sleep, I looked at her bed in the dream and thought ‘wow, so leave and cleave looks like this‘.

As soon as I woke up, Ephesians 2:6 was on my lips; “And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with Him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus“. This entire week, God has been opening me to the revelations of this one verse and it has honestly left me mind blown.

God took me through a journey through scripture each time my mind was cast back to the dream to show me answers to my hearts meditations. The first and most important I saw is that ‘leaving and cleaving amplifies the oneness the bible speaks of in Mark 10:8′; “and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh“. If someone refuses to leave and cleave, it hampers greatly on the oneness of the two coming together.

Its scarce that you hear people talk about our relationship with God as a marriage and it is weird at the same time because we discuss earthen wedding and marriages ever so often, but truly your relationship with God is a marriage, hence why God calls us His bride and why Romans 7:1-4 paints a picture of a married couple (you and God) as a result of the death (you to the law) that occurred, which now freed you from the marriage and allowed you marry freely. We would have been adulterers if we did not die to sin before being united with Christ and God knew this, which is why our substitute, hung on the cross, us in Him, hung there too, and we died together, which set us free from the ex-husband (the law) and gave us legal right to marry again.

Now, if we are now married with Christ and seated in Him in heavenly places, it would mean that we would still be considered adulterers to be found lingering in affairs other than the ones that concern our bridegroom. Marriage with God means that sometimes, even the seeming innocent activities are suspended just to fully give ourselves to our bridegroom to abide in ONENESS.

While we are sat in Christ in heavenly places, a lot of Christians periodically leave that siting to engage in affairs that have nothing to do with the agenda of our bridegroom hence why intimacy with Him is heavily impacted. Our oneness with God was established by the death and resurrection of Jesus on the cross, but to continue to walk and live this reality, we must deny ourselves anything that stands as rival or competition to our bridegroom, including events, friends, games, habits, etc.

Our marriage with Christ is exclusive and must be reflected in our living.

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2 thoughts on “Are we exclusive?

    • Fochwoman says:

      Thanks for reading and engaging Oyinkan. So glad it echoes with you too. We are not in a polygamous relationship with God. It is all or nothing and God will help us to keep yielding all daily!


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