The dating scene is currently looking more like an escape room, everyone fighting to secure their person without losing themselves. Absolutely terrifying to witness.

Wanted to remind my single readers that the believers lot is far from this reality, and you must believe it before you experience it, we can’t camp our tent in ideologies or realities that are contrary to scripture. God leads us, step by step and He’s able to bring us to an expected end.

So how do we give green lights without looking desperate?

1. Ensure the intended person shares similar values and principles with you from the onset. The chances are that a like-minded believer will interpret things from a stand point of purity and not a worldly or fleshy way. So let the potential pass the check of shared values.
2. Once the first is achieved, honestly, resist the urge to self preserve. Love is a risk. Jesus took that risk, we also will take it, but our advantage is the Holy Spirit, He will always guide us on when to take the leap. But don’t get caught up in being so guarded that you’re shielding yourself from something so beautiful.
3. Dialogue. A lot of ladies particularly shy away from this. They believe a man should bring up the conversation first, and while I agree, I believe that if he doesn’t, for the sake of your emotional health, it is very necessary that you ask questions to know where you both stand. Save everybody’s time.
4. Be yourself. Green and red lights aren’t things that go on and off, they are actually a persons lifestyle, their way of life, being yourself is the best way to give green light to someone coming after you.
5. No rush. “Great things take time”. Even love. Desperation reeks of haste, so allow yourselves enough time to see what you both desire in a partner before moving to the next stage.

Our only desperation as believers is to do Gods will and be where He is, if we walk with His spirit, we should have no fear of appearing desperate to an intending who has a heart for God just as we do.

Speaking and counselling a lot of young women in this season and strongly felt led to remind someone that God gives the best gifts and He has not forgotten you, don’t settle.