It’s #Day2 people! Loved reading the letters from yesterday about the people we hurt, I really felt closure writing all that out and I think most people felt same too, reaching out to apologise to the people who they hurt.

Today, our letters are to people who hurt us. We should not be writing from a place of unforgiveness, I think it should be from a pure, forgiven place, but if you feel you still have this hurt in your heart, feel free to release and express yourself, but afterwards, make peace with yourself and then if you can, with the person as well.

A letter to someone who hurt me

I’ve never ignored anything like the way I ignored this particular hurt, I denied it all I could, I made excuses for it and I even tried to take the blame off the person and put on myself, until the Holy Spirit arrested me and said ‘No Rubie, you will not operate from pain or bitterness to this person, you would love them as I have loved you’.

Unfortunately, God went an extra mile to allow an occurrence before we both saw and recognised a need to drop the dust and keep moving.

I had closed your chapter mentally before I even closed it physically, I knew that life would not take me completely out of your sight so I knew I was going to have to learn to deal with it.

I know you had little or no choices sometimes, I know you were wayyyy too busy and I know somewhere in you, it was all to give me an amazing life, but I was too young to understand, too young to make excuses for you and way too young to confront you about it.

I’m well past it now, thanks to God really, but I wanted you to know that I’m grateful, I learnt so much through it all, It also helped me identify what I wanted for my life and future and it also unlocked another level of my relationship with God.

I’m glad that God indeed has chosen to use the foolish things of this world to confound the wise because I don’t know what would have happened if that occurrence didn’t bring us both to a place of realisation.

I love you, I forgive you and i’m glad about all of it, it revealed strengths in the areas we didn’t even know we could be strong.

Dear Readers;

First of all, NO, this letter is not to a past boyfriend or someone who broke my heart, it is actually to my dad, He’s amazing and an actual super star but he was too absent in my childhood and that made me really mad, I didn’t even know it till I was grown and I realised I had resentments in my heart about him. God took us both through a journey of acceptance, revelation and healing and now, I can say our relationship is brand new.

When God started dealing with this hurt in me, He didn’t even put my dad in it, He would usually make me understand that me forgiving him was about me and not even my dad and I struggled with that because a part of me so badly wanted God to agree with me that my Dad was wrong and needed to be the one begging for forgiveness.

As we grow spiritually, one of the big things we will learn is forgiveness, and this kind of forgiveness is very divine, because, it is forgiving even when the person who has offended is not sorry. God opens your heart so wide, so that you’re seeing the person who hurt you, the same way God Himself sees them

Reminds me of the verse in the bible that says God will give us a new heart and put a new spirit in us, He’ll take away our heart of stone and give us a heart of flesh – (Ezekiel 36:26). The most evident place this verse is, is in the place of forgiveness.

Who do you need to forgive today? Please do it today and now. Your heart needs the room you’ve held the person in to love more people. Don’t allow any space for hate or hurt!