In a lot of countries, there’s a minimum number of years you must’ve been separated before you can legally be divorced by the courts. It might not make sense in every scenario but for the majority, I think it makes perfect sense, I think it’s the law giving both parties some time to consider if … Continue reading My memoir of year four
Category: Marriage
My memoir of year three
I remember summarising the lesson of year 2 memoir to “don’t wait to fix what is broken, but build what will stand the test of time” and so early in our third year of marriage, we decided to start couples counselling/therapy. I grew up in a church that advocated for marriage enhancement classes once you … Continue reading My memoir of year three
Musings on “young love”
My husband and I were listening to an old MI song today and while MI was rapping, he said “loving you girl since I was 22”. I made a random joke, singing same line to Nelson; “loving you boy since I was 19” and Nelson said “gosh, you were really so young”. We’re in such … Continue reading Musings on “young love”
My memoir of year two
This was suppose to go live two weeks ago but my first attempt at writing it, I got soaked in my own tears, the second attempt, I was convinced it read too much like a fairy tale, the third attempt was me trying hard to avoid a fairy tale story. And so, with the many … Continue reading My memoir of year two
Marriage is so healing
I woke up this morning and went downstairs to bring our dog in after my husband had let him out before leaving for work. The next thing I remember was hearing a loud scream, funny because the scream was coming from me. Lol I quickly ran in, called the dog in and ran to grab … Continue reading Marriage is so healing
The loud and quiet lovers
One of the best parts of love is just how unique it is. The characteristics could be the same, but the expressions are always at the mercy of the parties involved. Every couple gets a clean slate to curate their expressions of love, not necessarily the characteristics or components of love, but its diverse expressions. … Continue reading The loud and quiet lovers
Navigating sexual attraction in courtship
I remember a time I went to Nigeria for holiday, Nelson and I had started courting, and the night before I left Abuja, he had flown in from Lagos to say goodbye because early that morning I left him a text saying “I wish I could see you one last time before I left”. Didn’t … Continue reading Navigating sexual attraction in courtship
Loving the ‘wrong’ person
Today is day 3 of #FochLoveSeries and we talk about loving the wrong person. Someone might be thinking “what makes a person wrong?”, “how does one end up loving a wrong person?” We will break it down very shortly. The first thing to note is that this mostly happens unconsciously. It happens consciously sometimes, but … Continue reading Loving the ‘wrong’ person
My Memoir of Year One
As a result of how reflective I am, I find that I document a lot, keeping time stamps, notes or pictures of some of the most random events in my life, because I know my mind will cast back to it one day, and when that day comes, I usually want to remember in full … Continue reading My Memoir of Year One
Constant across all states
I love that my heart is at peace even when my husband is mad at me, cause even then I have no doubt of his love and commitment to me. He doesn’t deny me because he’s angry or in a state of hurt and I find that extremely divine. It’s the greatest security I find … Continue reading Constant across all states
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